The 101 on your ring exchange, and do you need one?
We’re coming into our own as each wedding season progresses and as with many elements post-pandemic, ring exchanges are going out the window in favour of more practicable or sentimental gestures.
The question begs, does this tradition resonate with you?
The circle has no beginning nor end, therefore representing eternity and a symbol of love and devotion. Ancient Egyptians believed that the ring finger contained a vein of love that led directly to the heart - a belief the Romans also adopted. That being said, this is not anatomically correct.
Through the ages, these rings have been made of varying materials. From reeds to iron & copper, to gold, to the incorporation of diamonds and precious stones, many of which we see today.
Fast forward to the now, and you have the gift of choice to decide. Is a ring important to you? Maybe, your engagement ring is enough, or you are content with your commitment without a material symbol. Either way, like many elements of your wedding day, the ring exchange is merely a formality.
Here are our top 5 ways for you to consider substituting your ring exchange for:
1. Plant a tree
A symbol of union, growth, beauty and prosperity, the planting of the tree is an appealing substitute for your ring exchange - and great for our planet-loving friends too. Caitlin and Shipley (snapped below by Emily Hugo) even got their loved ones involved, all sprinkling in a cup of earth to solidify their commitment and support.
2. Gift an alternate piece of jewellery - a watch
If you or your partner have hobbies or careers where rings aren’t practical, consider a watch, a necklace or a piece of special occasion jewellery. Here, you could even repurpose your engagement ring. After all, we have now established that you could go without rings at all!
3. Tattoos
Whilst they do take up some extra time, the ceremony of tattooing showcases permanency and displays an intention of unwavering commitment. We’re here for it, if it suits you as a couple.
4. Wine box love letter
The ritual of the wine box love letter is something we often compare to a time capsule. You and your partner would choose a wine box and beverage that will age well, which, during your wedding ceremony you will seal inside pre-prepared, heartfelt letters to each other. The intention is to open the box over the coming years, or designed to be opened should you strike tough times, serving a reminder of why you committed to your journey together.
5. Pounamu or significant gemstone
Pounamu is a stone significant to those who resonate with Te Ao Māori and Aotearoa, New Zealand. When gifted, it represents the forming of an eternal bond and is said to invite positive energy into one’s life. Depending on your beliefs and factors surrounding your wedding day, your blessing and gifting ritual could take place during your ceremony or could be held in the days prior. If you have no spiritual connection to the stone, another gemstone may be better suited to you and your partner.
All of these ideas are getting us so excited for the wedding season, especially as we witness couples like you seek out the most unique ways to celebrate your life-long commitment to each other. If you have any other ideas to sub out a ring exchange, we’d love to know!
Until next,
Lucy xxx